It would be nice to think that your church is full of members who will take the initiative to pursue and nurture friendships with newcomers. The reason this is unlikely, however, is that most people in your church:
● Already have friends, and don’t feel a great desire for more.
● Consider themselves quite busy, with little or no time for additional activities.
● Believe their church is already friendly and it will be easy for newcomers to get connected.
● Are not aware of the importnat need for new members to make friends quickly in their new church.
… The new member who stays beyond the first year has made an average of seven new friends in the church. It is our conviction that the responsibility for initiating and nurturing these new friendships among new members rests primarily with the church. In other words, it is not the responsibility of the newcomer to take the initiative to make friends.
— Gary McIntosh and Charles Arn, What Every Pastor Should Know: 101 Indispensible Rules of Thumb for Leading Your Church, p. 99.